Pulling Power or Non-starter?

Have you ever wondered exactly what it is that attracts one person to another, how it is that we just naturally seem to be drawn to certain people and not others? They do say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder but all of us must have at some point looked at a couple together and thought (often bitterly), “come on mate, you’re punching well above your weight.”

I recall once when out with a male friend, bumping in to a couple that he knew and thinking how lovely she was and what a total arrogant cock he was. Coupled with a Neanderthal brow and bottom lip that nearly reached his knees he didn’t exactly have the appearance of a babe magnet, in fact the only thing missing was a massive wooden club. I walked away slightly confused wondering what the attraction was (for her) and concluding that, sadly some girls just seem to be drawn to baboons in jogging bottoms.

How many of you can remember the hit single from 1978 by Joe Jackson (see below), “Is she really going out with him?” The song was about attractive girls dating not so hot guys, the opening line stating, “Pretty women walking with Gorillas down my street” and the lyrics generally expressed frustration at this “travesty.”

In my experience, men seem to be much shallower in their reasoning for why a “babe” would choose to be with a “Herman Munster” than women are, and are therefore far more likely to focus on physical appearances. Theories like the guy being in possession of oversized tackle or a bulging bank account are often put forward to explain this “anomaly.”

Women, however will often prefer to believe in “the power of love” or simply that he really is a sweet guy who treats her nicely. In a recent survey to find the top five things that attract certain men to women and vice versa some of the results were surprising, or were they? See below

As you can see the top three answers are the same albeit number one and two positions reversed, however, whatever has happened regarding position four and five? Oh dear oh dear, the women have chosen intelligence and kindness whereas the men have hung on to the 1970’s and gone for breasts and legs! Surely this shows women in a far more mature light than men? I don’t know, you decide.

Also mentioned by the females, but not making the top five were strength and honesty, but neither of these virtues put in an appearance with the men. We did get arse, and good cook, and even, “the ability to blow a door shut with one fart”, however I’m not convinced the last one was a genuine requirement!

On the internet I have actually seen a 1-10 chart to grade peoples attractiveness, I won’t put it all up just the top and bottom rankings:

10. Perfection - doesn’t exist but someone can be close.

1. Monster - can’t look at you or might burn my eyes out.

Bloody charming hey?

Have you ever asked yourself where you think you sit on the old “attract-ometer” and whether you can possibly push yourself up the beauty spectrum another notch with a little help? Also, are you subconsciously (or consciously) always looking for a partner of the same “ranking” in the looks department? Again, in my experience this is a trait more common in males then females, “Not touching that mate, she’s only a six, I’m a seven going on eight”.

One thing for sure is that a sense of humour is very high on most people’s list of priorities. I have heard many guys say that they love a girl they can have a beer and a laugh with and am sure the opposite is also true (maybe Gin or Prosecco instead though) So just remember that laughter may indeed be an aphrodisiac and the “fuel of love”, but please leave room for us grumpy old bastards, we have something to offer too…